Written by Steph Redhead  | 

Life is full of ups and downs and lots of things out of our control. But what about the hard stuff that we CAN do something about?


We all know that life has great moments and hard moments.  Mountain top moments and dark valley moments.  Good times and bad.  Ups and downs. 


We have to put up with a lot in our lives.  There are lots of things that are thrown at us that we have no control over and that we just have to accept, live with, or walk out.   But I wanted to write today about the stuff that we ‘live with’ that we don’t actually HAVE to put up with.  The stuff that we have allowed into our lives and that we accommodate but are actually not helpful, not necessary and dare I say it are the consequences for our own choices!


If you are brave enough to keep reading and there are things in your life that you are not happy with then why don’t you go on a wee journey with me…

  • Take a moment, make yourself a cuppa and write down all the things you are not happy about in your life.
  • Put a mark next to the ones that you might actually be able to do something about. 
  • Now pick ONE that you are absolutely sick of and are ready to do battle to be rid of.

For example:
Financial issues


Once you have picked that one thing circle it in big red marker pen and write
next to it because it’s time for it to go!


In all seriousness though, identifying the problem is the easy part.  I’m sure like mine your list had quite a few lines to it and more words than you would care to confess to!  I reckon I’d also be safe to say that you’ve tried more than once to work on them and be rid of them…ME TOO!


The thing is that the issues we are talking about are not small things that are easy fixed because otherwise they wouldn’t be on our list!  And because they are BIG things and have made themselves quite comfortable in our lives they are not going to allow themselves to be evicted without a fight!  And that fight is going to take a lot more than positive thinking, good intentions and some willpower on our part to win. This is why we are only going to pick a fight with ONE of the issues on our list at a time, because we want to win and no matter the size of the issue, our fight will need courage, time, consistency, and strategy.


So today I want to encourage you to stir up the courage to step up to your fight of eviction!!!  I’m not going to leave it there though – I’m going to share a few thoughts to help you with the strategy and consistency too!


In the Bible in Ephesians it talks about putting on armor whenever you are going into battle.  It is in particular reference to the fight of faith but I want to share using  this passage to inspire us for our battle against ‘that one thing!’


Ephesians 6:14-17
Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.



So often we find ourselves in this place and accommodating ‘that thing’ because we have believed lies.  Most of those lies have probably come from our own self-talk that has grown over the years into the very thing that defines us and results in ‘that thing.’

For example;
“I’m not good enough”
“I deserve this”
“I don’t deserve this”
“I will never forgive myself for that”

What lies have you told yourself and believed that has led to this thing?
It’s time to replace those lies with what is TRUE!
Take some time to write down some bold TRUE statements that you can use in your battle to repeat over and over when it is getting hard!



Back in the days of breastplates, they were used by roman soldiers in battle to protect their vital organs – especially their hearts.  This piece of armor resonates with me in our battle with ‘that thing’ because we must protect our hearts and keep them soft.  So often hard and sad things we experience can fill our hearts with bitterness and turn them cold and hard.  True beauty and real victory happens when we can come out of a battle with our hearts still soft, tender and open.  Put your breastplate on and protect your heart!



Battles are exhausting and in any battle you are on the lookout for moments of reprieve, rest and peace.  In order to get victory over ‘that thing’ it will take consistent effort over an extended period of time.  Prepare yourself for that by figuring out what good and healthy things will bring you peace, rest and reprieve, and then schedule them in along the journey.  When you have peace in your mind and body you will make better choices, endure the battle better and obtain overall victory of ‘that thing’ in the end.



You’ve made notice of eviction to ‘that thing’, stirred up your courage, and are making small changes in order to win the victory.  Be aware that this kind of behaviour may attract some ‘mud-slinging’ or ‘arrow shooting’ from others.  Some of it will be from the enemy but some may also come from ‘friendly fire.’  For this you will need to have your shield handy.  Shield yourself from those attacks, keep the faith! You know exactly why you are doing what you are doing and you are girded with the truth you are telling yourself constantly, and with the peace that you have, you are winning the battle and you will not be taken out by an arrow!



A helmet is worn to protect our brains and salvation speaks of the freedom we have through Christ Jesus.  Using this analogy for our battle we need to get free from our negative thoughts and destructive self-talk in order to stop the cycle that leads us down the path of accommodating ‘that thing’ that we are evicting.  You can’t just fight the consequences, you have to deal with the source!  Put your helmet on and protect yourself from those negative thoughts and that destructive self-talk!



All of the armor up until now has been defensive.  The sword is an offensive weapon – in other words we use it to attack in the battle!  What strategic and proactive things can you do in order to attack that thing and bring solution and victory?  For some it might be making a plan, for some it might be getting help from a professional, whatever it looks like for you, make that plan of attack and fight the battle!


And so I want to leave you with this my brave friends…

If you are absolutely fed up with ‘that thing’ in your life that you know you can change, you need to know that you CAN fight it and get the victory.  It’s not going to happen overnight, and it is going to be a fight that requires a lot from you.  I believe you can do it and I am cheering you on!  So stir up your courage, make your plan, put on your armor (don’t forget your BraveGirl pants!) and fight until you get your victory! 

It’s time to step up to your battle!






Posted by Steph Redhead


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  1. Erena on 17 Sep 8:07 p.m.

    Thanks Steph. I have always thought that the helmet of salvation was the most important piece of my armour. Some call it the helmet of peace, and that is what I need.

  2. Catherine on 23 Sep 9:54 a.m.

    Thanks Steph, Exactly what I was needing to hear today